So, I traced it back. I had a "boyfriend". Y'know how toddlers will constantly ask you for something until you say yes? He did that. He also stole my dragon hoodie, ignored me after he moved only to say henever cared about me, bad talked me on his blog and to my friends after I dumped him, and in general was a freaking matyr-complex of an idiot.
He's not the problem. I mean, he kind of coerced/forced me to do stuff, but whatever. I'm really at the point of asexuality where that stuff doesn't matter. I was just thrown that he'd want to and was like "um... okay then." The problem was everyone else. My friends didn't know him, but they assumed he was great. They kept making excuses for him, and one actually yelled at me because I told him I'd never want to have sex (no boy would want a girl like that!).
Overall the feel I got was that people expect boys to do that. They expect them to be oversexual, selfish, ignorant of the feelings of other, and therefore allowed to get away with it. Yeah, maybe they didn't know the whole story, but I did. I was there. And the logic center of my brain got shunted aside in favor of "Guys are expected to treat people like this"
so... dunno. But I might be able to blame this on my near unwillingness to try and be masculine. I don't want to be like that, or to have people assume I am.